The size of a man’s genital organ has nothing to do with sexual abilities, but it is what each person believes about him that is true. We can say this as such: “You are as you believe yourself to be”. If a man considers himself in top sexual shape and believes he is totally virile, he is so. But if he thinks of himself that he is not capable or competent, then it is so.
Things can only get worse if the man doesn’t learn anything from him and his wife doesn’t know what she can do to help him. Sexual weakness is in fact the inability to play one’s role in the sexual relationship due to the impossibility of sufficient erection of the penis. The woman must, in the event that her husband is affected by this illness and weakness, do everything she can to save his happiness from this abyss.
She has to find the main cause of this like a doctor in a hospital would do. If she finds the cause and it is due to too much frequency of sexual intercourse, it will therefore be necessary to reduce it. Or if she notices that the cause is her husband’s embarrassment following some problem, rather than showing her jealousy over some stupid things, she must sacrifice part of her enjoyment until everything calms down.
She must fan the fire of desire in his heart without him even noticing it, give shine to his personality, amaze him with new clothes, her long beautiful hair and a good perfume.
She must act with great tact during copulation, because weakness is a disorder which greatly hurts the husband. She must remove any obstacle facing him in this situation and show him love, feelings and understanding, and must resort to female diplomacy. In most cases, the woman’s attention in this regard bears fruit quite quickly. Because love is nourished by love, and there is no better remedy than to revive love.
On the other hand, if the genital organ does not present any physical defect, sexual weakness can only come from a psychological problem, resulting from stress and lack of self-confidence. The man then asks himself a whole bunch of questions: “Will the penis become erect enough? Will it remain there for long enough? And will my abilities please him? …”
Here we are going to give some advice that you must first follow before any sexual relationship you want to succeed:
1- We must forget all organization in sex and give free rein to desire, man is not a machine performing movements at a specific time and his feelings differ from one moment to another.
2- Leave all work problems outside the home.
3- Do not have sexual relations if no desire is present or at an inopportune time.
4- Overcome your apprehensions, which will generate the confidence that ultimately leads to success.
Whatever the causes of the sexual relationship, there is one thing we can say, the man suffering from sexual weakness feels stress during the practice, stress probably due to anger which itself is perhaps due to the fear of anger within oneself. However, the overriding question is whether he can reduce the extent of his sexual weakness?
This question should be asked of both women and men when one of them suffers from sexual weakness. There are several faults that the wife commits which contribute to the sexual weakness of her husband. She therefore believes that her personal rank depends on her husband’s good behavior in bed, but if he is sexually weak, his weakness will grow and he will be forced to avoid sex for many months for fear of failure and that his woman feels humiliated thinking that she is not attractive and that she is incapable of seducing her husband.
What the husband suffering from this illness needs is the help of his wife in all circumstances. It is also important above all that the feeling of stress of the man changes into a feeling of peace and calm so that the practice can be done in this direction, little by little, day after day, using continuous caresses to that finally the adequate erection occurs to experience a completely natural relationship.
There is therefore no better remedy for this sexual weakness than a loving and tender wife caring for her husband with warm caresses and encouragement.
What can a wife do to help her husband?
The woman is the best remedy that can exist against sexual weakness. Many reasonable women respond to their husband’s problems in the form of help and understanding. Here is what she can do:
She may consider this problem as a challenge that must be faced together; she does not criticize or make fun of her husband, because this can only accentuate her husband’s fears at the sexual level. She must be attentive and focused even when she jokes with her husband, because the man has difficulty accepting this type of jokes and jokes.
She can also take the reins of sexual practice, which can lead to two things. On the one hand, it will be more exciting for her husband and on the other hand, it will bring her more personal enjoyment within this relationship.
After some time of marriage, the sexual relationship could take two directions. Sexuality will be the same, it begins with the same beginning, the spouses use the same positions and perform the same acts.
However, the opposite is more likely, if the woman takes the reins, what man would remain weak when entering the bedroom, the lights off, the bed prepared and the woman waiting for him for carnal intercourse? It would be even better if the woman helped him undress, because that makes him want her even more. He also understands from this that she finds him attractive, which helps to give him more confidence in himself and his sexual abilities.
Also, the first thing to do above all is to know the causes of this sexual weakness, the most important of which are:
1- Loss of vigor:
The man in a state of sexual weakness must act towards his problem in a natural way, he must not see in this a sort of castration, because the reality is that sexual desire decreases with age and does not remain at the same level. level. Thus, the sexual desire of a fifty-year-old man is lower than that of a man only in his twenties. But this in no way means that his sexual activity is over. Likewise, his needs at this advanced age are not comparable to those of his youth. In clearer terms, the erection and swelling of his penis will no longer be like before, and his penis may even relax sometimes.
It is also important to remember that the capacity of a fifty-year-old man to love, give and participate is greater than that of an immature young person. Sex is not just a physical ability demonstrating virility.
Therefore, a mature man ready to sacrifice “how much” for the benefit of “how” is better. And if a man faces his new situation with understanding and intelligence, as well as with the help of his wife, he can only succeed in his romantic relationship.
Man can ensure success when he thinks about possible means in relation to the problem rather than considering himself dead. His problem is a common illness among people but he has a cure. This way of acting is closer to success and is a point of the utmost importance.
2- Fear:
Under the mask of virility can hide a fear and fear of sexual weakness. We have already seen that a man’s confidence is closely linked to his sexual desire. In this way, some men become weak because of their fear of being unable to satisfy the sexual needs of their wives.
This is where the role of the woman appears. She must show her husband that she is happy with this loving practice. She must show it clearly through words and any other means. Once a person experiences this fear of failure, it becomes difficult to get rid of it. His fear can be summed up as follows: he is afraid of being rejected every time he approaches his wife, so this fear settles in him and becomes a habit.
In reality, when a man approaches his wife and she is in a state of great overwork or is not at ease, she must, in this situation, especially if her husband is someone a sensitive one, make her understand that the problem comes from her and that he has nothing to do with it. Because this fear of the man can only make her feel that she does not find him sexually attractive, which no man can accept. Nothing can be worse for him in this area.
3- Mockery:
A man is incapable of taking mockery, especially if it concerns his virility. More than that, if it relates to his genitals. The wise and reasonable woman would never do such a thing, for nothing can destroy a man more than that. It is she who by doing such a thing leads her husband to sexual weakness.
Mockery is actually a kid’s weapon but when the woman uses it, it can be deadly.
4- Tobacco:
Not to mention its religious prohibition and its many serious health consequences, smoking kills thousands of people every year. German doctors have discovered that cigarette smoke causes a decrease in male hormones, being at the origin of a man’s sexual capacity. Likewise, this damages one’s fertility and can therefore lead to sterility.
Tobacco acts indirectly on sexual capacity in two ways:
– Carbon monoxide, released from the first puff of smoke, reduces the oxygen in the blood, which affects the glands producing male hormones and their production decreases.
– Nicotine acts on the contraction of blood veins. This, having to fill with blood, is not and the swelling of the penis, that is to say the erection, cannot occur.
In addition to the smoker’s weak physical skills, the foul odors from his mouth greatly diminish his partner’s sexual attraction.
Finally, numerous studies on this subject show that a large number of men feel a definite improvement in their sex life directly after quitting smoking.
5- The passive woman:
Every man dreams of an exciting woman, he hopes that she will be sexually ardent in bed. This is the great excitement and enjoyment for him. That he feels his wife’s sexual desire for him gives him even more proof of his virility.
However, the woman’s inertia leads him to boredom, and from boredom to sexual weakness, because the woman in this state abandons a soulless body to her husband, as if performing an obligatory marital ritual. This one thing that only leads to the destruction of the sexual relationship between a man and his wife. No man would like to make love with a corpse, but he likes to feel that his wife is enjoying with him, as he is enjoying with her.
6- Vaginal dryness:
When the woman is aroused, the vaginal wall becomes engorged with blood and then produces its own lubricating substance. This natural lubrication usually occurs in less than a minute, but sometimes takes a little longer. If lubrication is insufficient, penetration may be painful and irritating, or even impossible. This is called vaginal dryness.
Vaginal dryness can be a sign of a physical or emotional problem, or a lack of desire. It is also common when the foreplay has been botched. Vaginal dryness is more severe during certain periods of the menstrual cycle and affects one in five postmenopausal women. Estrogen levels drop, causing atrophy of the vaginal walls, and subsequently a reduction in secretions. The vagina therefore takes longer to lubricate. If the woman is stressed or if she follows poor dietary hygiene, her adrenal glands will release less estrogen and will therefore have more difficulty fighting vaginal dryness.
Following an illness or childbirth, for example, the vagina may tend to become drier. That being said, experiencing vaginal dryness from time to time is completely normal. So don’t worry if this is an occasional problem.
7- The point on the G point:
Scientific reality or pure speculation? Although many recognize its existence, the question is still not resolved.
For some doctors, the famous G-spot is a diffuse erogenous zone, a sort of small cushion of flesh located on the anterior wall of the vagina, behind the pubic bone, about four centimeters from the vulvar orifice. It would be the equivalent of the prostate and could secrete a liquid close to semen, but without spermatozoa, at the time of orgasm, a phenomenon which has led some to speak of female ejaculation. Formal proof of its existence is still lacking and many doctors are very skeptical.
For others, the G-spot is an invention which has no other activation than giving the penis a determining role in female orgasm. What we call “G-spot” is actually an area of greater sensitivity in women. But all vaginal walls are a source of pleasure and different sensations.
Also, the Muslim must abandon doubt for what he has no doubt about. Moreover, it will bring neither additional indispensable science nor greater reward, nor even a change in sexual behavior between spouses, except, on the contrary, a waste of time and effort, even frustration , in the search for this famous G-spot, the existence of which is not even proven. Only Allah knows the secrets of His Creation.